NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS FOR UNIQUE & YOURS, AND ME PERSONALLY!
As the New Year - 2011 draws near, we all begin to look at how we can do things differently, achieve a different outcome than the last year. Making our do's and don't list, deciding what is realistic, and how to get it done.
New Years Resolutions - what are they really? where did they come from?
The tradition of making New Years Resolutions dates back to the early Babylonians. The most popular resolution of that time was to return borrowed farm equipment.
Today's resolutions include things such as stop smoking, loss weight, more exercise, save money......and they go on.
My resolutions for 2011 are going to be as follows:
1. Say something encouraging to someone each day! Hope and pray they will do the same!
2. Smile - my father always use to say "it is easier to smile than frown".
3. Write each day - as a writer, this is a must....discipline!
4. Don't always expect to receive something, but be willing to give!
5. Walk at least 3 blocks a day - for the heart! Add more when I can!
6. Use my talents to help and inspire others!
7. Know that there are those out there that will try to destroy you and your good works, but leave large spaces between you and them......continue your good work! They will defeat themselves with their continued negativity of others.
8. Give thanks daily! For both the good and the bad, as it will help us grow as individuals.
9. When I stumble, pick myself up and continue down my path, God's direction will light the path!
10. Say please and thank you!
11. Live each day to the fullest, as if it was my last!
12. Work with some of the most wonderful clients, and help them get the wedding/event that they have dreamed of.......!
My more traditional resolutions -
1. Get organized
2. Get better organized
3. Get super organized
4. Love my family unconditionally.
5. Less face book, more face to face communication!
6. Oh yeah, the "LOSS WEIGHT" resolution!
As 2010 comes to an end, and 2011 begins, a new book opens. It is my goal this year - both in my personal and business life to make the most of it, to complete my resolutions and attain my goals! A new beginning, a new chapter, let it begin!
Happy New Year to you all, and may 2011 be the best for each of you!
Remember to encourage one another, instead of trying to knock each other down! Life is to short for that! We all have a place in this world! Make your place the best it can be!
Marilyn
Monday, December 20, 2010
Thursday, October 21, 2010
WEDDING TRADITIONS AND FOLKLORE - Part 4
Wedding Traditions – how have they changed ?
HONEYMOON
Marriage was historically brought by a capture of the bride by the groom. The groom would take his bride to a place where she could not be found. They would stay at this location for approximately 30 days, as the moon went through its phases. While they were there they would drink a brew made of honey. This is how the term “honeymoon” began.
Couples today usually just get away to some place they feel is romantic for a shorter periods to celebrate the beginning of their lives together.
BRIDE’S GOWN
Traditionally the bridal gowns are white because of ancient Greeks and Romans believing that white was a symbol of purity, innocence, and joy. Today the white or ivory dress is a symbol of the celebration. Lace, was considered an art in Europe, and used as a popular ornamentation to the gowns. Used a lot today!
Note: There are of course other traditions, and research is still being done on them. The ones above are the most common.
TRADITIONS OF OTHER CULTURES FOR WEDDINGS
Sugar Cube – Greek brides tuck a cube of sugar in their glove to sweeten the union.
Rain on Your Wedding Day – Hindu beliefs include that rain on your wedding day is good luck.
Planting of Tree – in the Netherlands a tree is planted outside the newlywed’s home as a symbol of fertility.
Gift Collection – Finish brides traditionally carried a pillow case door to door collecting gifts.
Red and Yellow Outfits – Korean brides were outfits in these colors to their wedding.
Hand Tying – this is done in many cultures, including Celtic, Native American, Hindu and Egyptian. The couple’s hands are tied together during the ceremony as a symbol of their bond and commitment.
Jumping of the Broom – An African-American tradition brought about because marriages were not allowed during slavery, so they would show their love at a celebration by jumping the broom. It is used by many today as part of their ceremony, even other cultures.
Sake – Japanese tradition is that the couple becomes man and wife after they have taken the first nine sips of sake.
Locking of the Doors – In Ireland, the doors to the church were locked after everyone had entered to insure that the groom would not back out.
While these are only a few of the traditions and customs, these are the most readily used in wedding ceremonies. My research will go on and I will update this blog topic again.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I hope that you are able to incorporate some of these into your wedding!!
HONEYMOON
Marriage was historically brought by a capture of the bride by the groom. The groom would take his bride to a place where she could not be found. They would stay at this location for approximately 30 days, as the moon went through its phases. While they were there they would drink a brew made of honey. This is how the term “honeymoon” began.
Couples today usually just get away to some place they feel is romantic for a shorter periods to celebrate the beginning of their lives together.
BRIDE’S GOWN
Traditionally the bridal gowns are white because of ancient Greeks and Romans believing that white was a symbol of purity, innocence, and joy. Today the white or ivory dress is a symbol of the celebration. Lace, was considered an art in Europe, and used as a popular ornamentation to the gowns. Used a lot today!
Note: There are of course other traditions, and research is still being done on them. The ones above are the most common.
TRADITIONS OF OTHER CULTURES FOR WEDDINGS
Sugar Cube – Greek brides tuck a cube of sugar in their glove to sweeten the union.
Rain on Your Wedding Day – Hindu beliefs include that rain on your wedding day is good luck.
Planting of Tree – in the Netherlands a tree is planted outside the newlywed’s home as a symbol of fertility.
Gift Collection – Finish brides traditionally carried a pillow case door to door collecting gifts.
Red and Yellow Outfits – Korean brides were outfits in these colors to their wedding.
Hand Tying – this is done in many cultures, including Celtic, Native American, Hindu and Egyptian. The couple’s hands are tied together during the ceremony as a symbol of their bond and commitment.
Jumping of the Broom – An African-American tradition brought about because marriages were not allowed during slavery, so they would show their love at a celebration by jumping the broom. It is used by many today as part of their ceremony, even other cultures.
Sake – Japanese tradition is that the couple becomes man and wife after they have taken the first nine sips of sake.
Locking of the Doors – In Ireland, the doors to the church were locked after everyone had entered to insure that the groom would not back out.
While these are only a few of the traditions and customs, these are the most readily used in wedding ceremonies. My research will go on and I will update this blog topic again.
Thanks for taking the time to read this, and I hope that you are able to incorporate some of these into your wedding!!
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
WEDDING TRADITIONS AND FOLKLORE - Part 3
Wedding traditions - where have they gone?
As I continue to research the wedding traditions, I am finding that many are still used today, but altered some! It is interesting to learn about how some of the traditions began, and when!
This is the 3rd part of our postings on this subject. Hope you are enjoying learning more about them!
Father of the Bride escorting the Bride own the Aisle
This tradition actually has a two part meaning – first the Father of the bride is actually saying through this that he things that this young man is a very good choice for his daughter and that he is escorting her to him. It can also be taken to mean that the father is presenting his daughter to this man as a pure young woman that he raised.
In my years I have also seen many brides who do not want their father to escort them down the aisle for reasons of their own. And I have witnessed fathers who do not want to walk their daughters down the aisle.
Taking of the Right Hands by Couple During the Ceremony
Offering the open right hand to each other during the ceremony presents a sign of strength and purpose. By clasping the hands together, the combine these strengths and accept the others symbolizing that each can depend on the other. It some thought it could be viewed as a sealing of the contract. It is similar to the gentleman’s handshake for commitments that are made.
Why the Groom Says His Marriage Vows First
In marriages, it is viewed that the man should be the leader and assumes a larger responsibility. Although this may seem old fashioned to many today, it is brought forth from history, and accepted as the trend. The groom is thought of as the covenant initiator, and he must be the first to commit to the marriage as per God’s desire.
And we all do believe that a marriage is a shared experience and the couple should be equal in it, but we to know that the man has always been know as the head of the house – even though some females feel they are in control.
Engagement Ring
This old tradition, the giving of a ring, was used long ago to seal agreements. A marriage or engagement is thought of as a sacred agreement. During the time when marriages were purchased, the ring symbolized a partial payment for the bride. Did you know that the first diamond engagement rings were first worn back in Italy during the medieval times? Diamonds have always been the preferred stone for engagement rings by brides. It was said that the diamond’s sparkle is caused by the fires of love.
Not all brides like diamonds and prefer another stone.
Why is the Couple Pronounced – Husband and Wife
This is the point and time of the ceremony when they are blessed by marriage and start their journey together. It also gives those in attendance the reassurance that they are now married – a sort of validation.
Signing of the Guest Book
Wow, most of the weddings have this wrong. According to tradition, the wedding guest book is a book that should actually be signed “after” the ceremony. The guests would be testifying that they were witness to the covenant, and will testify to the reality of the marriage.
Most weddings today have you sign the guest book before entering the ceremony. This has happened probably due to all the confusion and congestion after the ceremony.
Why Food at the Reception
Food has always been a part of most celebrations and this is no different. Serving food at a reception goes a little further though, it symbolizes the unity of the couple, and they share that with their guests.
Why are Wedding Cakes Such a Big Part of the Wedding Reception
Actually cakes, as well as bread have always been part of celebration of a marriage. The ancient Romans considered bread to be a symbol of fertility. To ensure that fertility would be present in this couple, a loaf of bread would be broken over the bride’s head and the crumbs would be served to the guests.
Another look at this would be the belief that a couple was not considered married until they had broke the bread and eaten it together.
Today we use the cutting of the cake, and the groom feeding the bride first, or together to follow that tradition of the Romans. Guests are offered a piece of the wedding cake to wish the couple luck and to provide a sign of unity.
Groom’s cakes have made their appearances through the years. Not all receptions have them. The groom’s cake was often served at the rehearsal dinner which is hosted by his family. This too was thought of as a blessing of fertility. Groom’s cakes first appeared as a dark rich fruitcake, but have evolved over the years.
Throwing of Rice and Petals
The tradition of throwing rice and or petals after the ceremony has evolved over the years. In the Middle Ages it was the custom to throw handfuls of wheat over the couple to represent the hope for fertility. In more recent times rice was substituted for the wheat, then it was flower petals to symbolize beauty, happiness, prosperity and of course fertility.
However today, things are changing once again. Many venues or churches do not allow the throwing of rice. Once reason it that it is not good or safe for birds that try to feed on it. At one time birdseed was used, but I have found in recent years as a planner, that churches and venues do not allow bird seed as an alternative. The reason being is that it attracts unwanted birds to visit and reside.
As far as the flower petals, real ones are ok, as they do eventually compost into the soil, and the birds will not eat them. BUT the silk ones are a totally different story.
Be creative with your decision, and plan green if at all possible. Many brides are deleting this entirely out of their wedding.
Bridal Showers
Because of a Dutch father, bridal showers were introduced. The father did not approve of his daughter’s choice for a husband – he was after all a poor miller. The bride, assisted by her friends asked to be showered with gifts so that she would have the necessary dowry to gain her father’s respect and permission to be married to this man. In England many years later a woman wanted to congratulate her friend for her upcoming marriage, but her one gift did not seem big enough. So she suggested to the bride’s friends that they gather and present their gifts at the same time. It was so popular that it became known as a bridal shower, and has continued on today.
MORE TO COME – final part
In the final part, I will talk about a few remaining traditions, touch base on some customs of other countries, and sum up my thoughts!
Hope you are enjoying these as much as I am! I love the history of things!
As I continue to research the wedding traditions, I am finding that many are still used today, but altered some! It is interesting to learn about how some of the traditions began, and when!
This is the 3rd part of our postings on this subject. Hope you are enjoying learning more about them!
Father of the Bride escorting the Bride own the Aisle
This tradition actually has a two part meaning – first the Father of the bride is actually saying through this that he things that this young man is a very good choice for his daughter and that he is escorting her to him. It can also be taken to mean that the father is presenting his daughter to this man as a pure young woman that he raised.
In my years I have also seen many brides who do not want their father to escort them down the aisle for reasons of their own. And I have witnessed fathers who do not want to walk their daughters down the aisle.
Taking of the Right Hands by Couple During the Ceremony
Offering the open right hand to each other during the ceremony presents a sign of strength and purpose. By clasping the hands together, the combine these strengths and accept the others symbolizing that each can depend on the other. It some thought it could be viewed as a sealing of the contract. It is similar to the gentleman’s handshake for commitments that are made.
Why the Groom Says His Marriage Vows First
In marriages, it is viewed that the man should be the leader and assumes a larger responsibility. Although this may seem old fashioned to many today, it is brought forth from history, and accepted as the trend. The groom is thought of as the covenant initiator, and he must be the first to commit to the marriage as per God’s desire.
And we all do believe that a marriage is a shared experience and the couple should be equal in it, but we to know that the man has always been know as the head of the house – even though some females feel they are in control.
Engagement Ring
This old tradition, the giving of a ring, was used long ago to seal agreements. A marriage or engagement is thought of as a sacred agreement. During the time when marriages were purchased, the ring symbolized a partial payment for the bride. Did you know that the first diamond engagement rings were first worn back in Italy during the medieval times? Diamonds have always been the preferred stone for engagement rings by brides. It was said that the diamond’s sparkle is caused by the fires of love.
Not all brides like diamonds and prefer another stone.
Why is the Couple Pronounced – Husband and Wife
This is the point and time of the ceremony when they are blessed by marriage and start their journey together. It also gives those in attendance the reassurance that they are now married – a sort of validation.
Signing of the Guest Book
Wow, most of the weddings have this wrong. According to tradition, the wedding guest book is a book that should actually be signed “after” the ceremony. The guests would be testifying that they were witness to the covenant, and will testify to the reality of the marriage.
Most weddings today have you sign the guest book before entering the ceremony. This has happened probably due to all the confusion and congestion after the ceremony.
Why Food at the Reception
Food has always been a part of most celebrations and this is no different. Serving food at a reception goes a little further though, it symbolizes the unity of the couple, and they share that with their guests.
Why are Wedding Cakes Such a Big Part of the Wedding Reception
Actually cakes, as well as bread have always been part of celebration of a marriage. The ancient Romans considered bread to be a symbol of fertility. To ensure that fertility would be present in this couple, a loaf of bread would be broken over the bride’s head and the crumbs would be served to the guests.
Another look at this would be the belief that a couple was not considered married until they had broke the bread and eaten it together.
Today we use the cutting of the cake, and the groom feeding the bride first, or together to follow that tradition of the Romans. Guests are offered a piece of the wedding cake to wish the couple luck and to provide a sign of unity.
Groom’s cakes have made their appearances through the years. Not all receptions have them. The groom’s cake was often served at the rehearsal dinner which is hosted by his family. This too was thought of as a blessing of fertility. Groom’s cakes first appeared as a dark rich fruitcake, but have evolved over the years.
Throwing of Rice and Petals
The tradition of throwing rice and or petals after the ceremony has evolved over the years. In the Middle Ages it was the custom to throw handfuls of wheat over the couple to represent the hope for fertility. In more recent times rice was substituted for the wheat, then it was flower petals to symbolize beauty, happiness, prosperity and of course fertility.
However today, things are changing once again. Many venues or churches do not allow the throwing of rice. Once reason it that it is not good or safe for birds that try to feed on it. At one time birdseed was used, but I have found in recent years as a planner, that churches and venues do not allow bird seed as an alternative. The reason being is that it attracts unwanted birds to visit and reside.
As far as the flower petals, real ones are ok, as they do eventually compost into the soil, and the birds will not eat them. BUT the silk ones are a totally different story.
Be creative with your decision, and plan green if at all possible. Many brides are deleting this entirely out of their wedding.
Bridal Showers
Because of a Dutch father, bridal showers were introduced. The father did not approve of his daughter’s choice for a husband – he was after all a poor miller. The bride, assisted by her friends asked to be showered with gifts so that she would have the necessary dowry to gain her father’s respect and permission to be married to this man. In England many years later a woman wanted to congratulate her friend for her upcoming marriage, but her one gift did not seem big enough. So she suggested to the bride’s friends that they gather and present their gifts at the same time. It was so popular that it became known as a bridal shower, and has continued on today.
MORE TO COME – final part
In the final part, I will talk about a few remaining traditions, touch base on some customs of other countries, and sum up my thoughts!
Hope you are enjoying these as much as I am! I love the history of things!
Saturday, October 16, 2010
WEDDING DRESS POEM
In my research for information about wedding traditions and folklore, I found the poem below. It seemed to fit with what I am writing about with regards to traditions and folklore about weddings.
This is an old poem about how the color of your wedding dress will influence your future:
Married in white, you will have chosen all right.
Married in grey , you will go far away.
Married in black, you will wish yourself back.
Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead.
Married in blue, you will always be true.
Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl.
Married in green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow.
Married in brown, you’ll live out of town.
Married in pink, your spirits will sink
~Origin unknown
This is an old poem about how the color of your wedding dress will influence your future:
Married in white, you will have chosen all right.
Married in grey , you will go far away.
Married in black, you will wish yourself back.
Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead.
Married in blue, you will always be true.
Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl.
Married in green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow.
Married in brown, you’ll live out of town.
Married in pink, your spirits will sink
~Origin unknown
WEDDING TRADITIONS AND FOLKLORE - Part 2
WEDDING TRADITIONS – where have they gone? Part 2
As I take a look at the traditions and folklore of weddings past, I am becoming so aware of how brides have drifted away from some of the traditional things with weddings. A little sad for me! We will continue in this next posting looking at several things.
WHY WEDDING CAKES ARE USUALLY TIERED
During the Anglo-Saxon era, guests would bring small cakes to the wedding reception and stacked them on top of each other. Now for me that is a little hard to embrace. As time progressed a baker in France created a cake with the shape of small cakes on top of one another and covered it in frosting. That style of cake is now known as a tiered cake.
THE TRADITION OF THE GROOM NOT SEEING THE BRIDE ON THE DAY OF THE WEDDING
A tradition passed down for generation is concerning the seeing of the bride by the groom on the day of the wedding. It is said to bad luck to the couple if they see each other. It is explained that if they see each other they are taking a glimpse in the future and bringing bad luck. This tradition still is practiced with some brides, but not all.
As a mother of sons, I can say that there is nothing more touching that watching the groom sees his bride for the first time in her gown as she comes down the aisle on the arm of her father. A real tear jerker. As a planner I see a lot of the brides and grooms seeing each other before to accommodate pictures. The venues have a hand in this also with the limited use time. They have to hurry with so many things.
This is a tradition that I would like to see practiced more!
MARRIAGE KISS
The kissing at the end of the ceremony is an Ancient Roman tradition. In those days it would mean that your marriage was now legal. It was considered a legal bond. It also is associated with the tapping of a spoon on a glass until the couple kisses. Today you sometimes see the spoon and glass tradition take place at the reception. It is not done at all receptions though, and sometimes does become annoying if over used.
LENGTH OF BRIDES TRAIN
In the middle Ages the length of a brides train showed her rank in royal court. The longer her train was the closer to the King and Queen. It showed that she had great influence with the royalty.
RECEIVING LINE
This is a tradition that has been discontinued by many brides. The receiving line came from an ancient belief or folklore that the bride and groom brought luck to all those that they touched on their wedding day. Today this tradition is often left out, or substituted at the reception with the couple making rounds to each table to greet their guests.
FAVORS FOR THE GUESTS
Wow, this is a tradition that has certainly changed during times. In the 18th and 19th centuries, gloves were given to the guests as their favor for attending the event. Today it is much more complex and expensive. Couples spend a lot of money on their favors! I only hope that the guests appreciate some of them. My favorite is a candy buffet, pieces of the cake to take with them, but I have also liked the idea of a CD given to each of the guests that has the couple’s choices of wedding music on it.
WHITE AISLE RUNNER
Aisle runners have been used by brides for years. The white runner symbolizes the marriage covenant between two people, and their God. It symbolizes God’s holiness and that he is part of their ceremony and that they are on holy ground.
Over the years, aisle runners have changed in colors, and not used by all brides. Even though the white runners are used, colors to match the brides wedding colors have become popular. They are even going so far as to have them monogrammed.
Outdoor ceremonies often combine the aisle runners by using flower petals to mimic the runner.
WHY THE GROOM ENTERS FIRST
The action of the groom entering first shows that he is the covenant initiator. This shows that as the initiator he assumes responsibility to make sure the covenant is fulfilled.
MORE TO COME………………..
I am certainly enjoying researching all these traditions from past days, and seeing how many are used today! I hope you are enjoying it too! More tomorrow as promised.
As I take a look at the traditions and folklore of weddings past, I am becoming so aware of how brides have drifted away from some of the traditional things with weddings. A little sad for me! We will continue in this next posting looking at several things.
WHY WEDDING CAKES ARE USUALLY TIERED
During the Anglo-Saxon era, guests would bring small cakes to the wedding reception and stacked them on top of each other. Now for me that is a little hard to embrace. As time progressed a baker in France created a cake with the shape of small cakes on top of one another and covered it in frosting. That style of cake is now known as a tiered cake.
THE TRADITION OF THE GROOM NOT SEEING THE BRIDE ON THE DAY OF THE WEDDING
A tradition passed down for generation is concerning the seeing of the bride by the groom on the day of the wedding. It is said to bad luck to the couple if they see each other. It is explained that if they see each other they are taking a glimpse in the future and bringing bad luck. This tradition still is practiced with some brides, but not all.
As a mother of sons, I can say that there is nothing more touching that watching the groom sees his bride for the first time in her gown as she comes down the aisle on the arm of her father. A real tear jerker. As a planner I see a lot of the brides and grooms seeing each other before to accommodate pictures. The venues have a hand in this also with the limited use time. They have to hurry with so many things.
This is a tradition that I would like to see practiced more!
MARRIAGE KISS
The kissing at the end of the ceremony is an Ancient Roman tradition. In those days it would mean that your marriage was now legal. It was considered a legal bond. It also is associated with the tapping of a spoon on a glass until the couple kisses. Today you sometimes see the spoon and glass tradition take place at the reception. It is not done at all receptions though, and sometimes does become annoying if over used.
LENGTH OF BRIDES TRAIN
In the middle Ages the length of a brides train showed her rank in royal court. The longer her train was the closer to the King and Queen. It showed that she had great influence with the royalty.
RECEIVING LINE
This is a tradition that has been discontinued by many brides. The receiving line came from an ancient belief or folklore that the bride and groom brought luck to all those that they touched on their wedding day. Today this tradition is often left out, or substituted at the reception with the couple making rounds to each table to greet their guests.
FAVORS FOR THE GUESTS
Wow, this is a tradition that has certainly changed during times. In the 18th and 19th centuries, gloves were given to the guests as their favor for attending the event. Today it is much more complex and expensive. Couples spend a lot of money on their favors! I only hope that the guests appreciate some of them. My favorite is a candy buffet, pieces of the cake to take with them, but I have also liked the idea of a CD given to each of the guests that has the couple’s choices of wedding music on it.
WHITE AISLE RUNNER
Aisle runners have been used by brides for years. The white runner symbolizes the marriage covenant between two people, and their God. It symbolizes God’s holiness and that he is part of their ceremony and that they are on holy ground.
Over the years, aisle runners have changed in colors, and not used by all brides. Even though the white runners are used, colors to match the brides wedding colors have become popular. They are even going so far as to have them monogrammed.
Outdoor ceremonies often combine the aisle runners by using flower petals to mimic the runner.
WHY THE GROOM ENTERS FIRST
The action of the groom entering first shows that he is the covenant initiator. This shows that as the initiator he assumes responsibility to make sure the covenant is fulfilled.
MORE TO COME………………..
I am certainly enjoying researching all these traditions from past days, and seeing how many are used today! I hope you are enjoying it too! More tomorrow as promised.
Friday, October 15, 2010
WEDDING TRADITIONS AND FOLKLORE
WEDDING TRADITIONS – where have they gone?
Today’s brides are not necessarily into the traditions of bride’s of the past. Glitter and glamour seem to occupy many brides’ wedding plans today. In looking at wedding traditions, we will talk about many in a three part blog posting.
Some of what we think of as traditions is actually folk lore, carried down from times past.
THE WEDDING RING
Since the Roman times, the wedding ring has always been placed on the third finger of the left hand. They believed that fingers vein ran straight to the heart.
The ring is also a circle – meaning never ending.
Some faiths place the ring on a different finger during the ceremony.
SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING BORROWED, SOMETHING BLUE, AND A SIXPENCE IN YOUR SHOE
This is one of the customs that has been altered or entirely dropped by brides of today. We will look at each area individually and the meaning behind them
Something old is a reflection of the bond to the bride’s family and the past. It can be reflected in the wearing of the mother’s or grandmother’s wedding gown (which is seldom done today), or the wearing of a piece of family jewelry. It was often a hanky of a grandmother, or a small family bible.
Something new gives the symbol of hope and good fortune. This is often seen as the new wedding gown, a piece of jewelry as a gift from the groom or her family.
Something borrowed is usually an item lent to the bride from a happily married secure mature woman. It is meant to share the happiness, good fortune and joy of a stable woman.
Something blue is a symbol of love, fidelity and purity of the bride. This is often the garter the bride wears. This particular tradition of the something blue is not used as much today.
A sixpence in your shoe symbolized a wish to the bride for wealth in her married life. This is another tradition that has not been used by brides of the present.
WEDDING FLOWER – Bridal Party
Flowers in a wedding started out simple, but have moved into the expensive realm of wedding planning today. Flowers were originally incorporated into the ceremony as a symbol of fertility. Flowers have become a huge part of a wedding – elaborate bouquets seem to be a must with today’s brides.
Another part of the bridal party flowers that has also changed is who pays for what with regards to the flowers.
The old concept was as follows, but that has changed today. And this is in regards to the wedding party flowers, not the ceremony or reception flowers or décor.
Groom/Groom’s Family is/was responsible for:
Bridal Bouquet
Bride’s Veil or headpiece
Bride’s Toss Bouquet (which is now often provided by the florist at no charge)
Corsages for the Mothers and Grandmothers – both sides.
Bride’s going away corsage – isn’t used these days.
Rehearsal Dinner flowers.
Bride’s family responsible for all others. However, today the bride’s family usually pays for it all.
TOSSING OF THE BOUQUET
This tradition stems from England. Women often tried to tear pieces of the bride’s dress for good luck. But then the bride began tossing her bouquet and running to avoid the crowds. Today’s brides still toss a throw away bouquet to all the single women present, and the one catching is believed to be the next to get married. Years ago when I first married (40 years ago) the bride’s bouquet would be tossed; we didn’t have throw away bouquets.
THE BRIDAL VEIL
The veil has long been a symbol of youth, modesty and virginity, and was used to turn off evil.
BRIDESMAIDS
The bridal party was established many centuries ago. According to folk lure the purpose of the bridesmaids was to fool evil spirits. The bride’s friends would dress similar to her to fool and confuse any evil prescience that might be around. In today’s weddings bridesmaid are around to help the bride in stressful times during the wedding,
MORE TO COME….
This is just the beginning segment for Unique & Yours blog with regards to wedding traditions and are they still be used……stay tuned for more!!!! Coming next – why does the groom have a best man, why is the bride on the Groom’s left, and much more. It has been really interesting to research all these traditions and to see how many are still around.
In the many years that I have been doing wedding and event planning, I have seen the traditions begin to disappear. You will also notice this as the blog posts continue. You will find yourself looking for these things when you attend weddings....take a mental note of what you do see and don't see.
Today’s brides are not necessarily into the traditions of bride’s of the past. Glitter and glamour seem to occupy many brides’ wedding plans today. In looking at wedding traditions, we will talk about many in a three part blog posting.
Some of what we think of as traditions is actually folk lore, carried down from times past.
THE WEDDING RING
Since the Roman times, the wedding ring has always been placed on the third finger of the left hand. They believed that fingers vein ran straight to the heart.
The ring is also a circle – meaning never ending.
Some faiths place the ring on a different finger during the ceremony.
SOMETHING OLD, SOMETHING NEW, SOMETHING BORROWED, SOMETHING BLUE, AND A SIXPENCE IN YOUR SHOE
This is one of the customs that has been altered or entirely dropped by brides of today. We will look at each area individually and the meaning behind them
Something old is a reflection of the bond to the bride’s family and the past. It can be reflected in the wearing of the mother’s or grandmother’s wedding gown (which is seldom done today), or the wearing of a piece of family jewelry. It was often a hanky of a grandmother, or a small family bible.
Something new gives the symbol of hope and good fortune. This is often seen as the new wedding gown, a piece of jewelry as a gift from the groom or her family.
Something borrowed is usually an item lent to the bride from a happily married secure mature woman. It is meant to share the happiness, good fortune and joy of a stable woman.
Something blue is a symbol of love, fidelity and purity of the bride. This is often the garter the bride wears. This particular tradition of the something blue is not used as much today.
A sixpence in your shoe symbolized a wish to the bride for wealth in her married life. This is another tradition that has not been used by brides of the present.
WEDDING FLOWER – Bridal Party
Flowers in a wedding started out simple, but have moved into the expensive realm of wedding planning today. Flowers were originally incorporated into the ceremony as a symbol of fertility. Flowers have become a huge part of a wedding – elaborate bouquets seem to be a must with today’s brides.
Another part of the bridal party flowers that has also changed is who pays for what with regards to the flowers.
The old concept was as follows, but that has changed today. And this is in regards to the wedding party flowers, not the ceremony or reception flowers or décor.
Groom/Groom’s Family is/was responsible for:
Bridal Bouquet
Bride’s Veil or headpiece
Bride’s Toss Bouquet (which is now often provided by the florist at no charge)
Corsages for the Mothers and Grandmothers – both sides.
Bride’s going away corsage – isn’t used these days.
Rehearsal Dinner flowers.
Bride’s family responsible for all others. However, today the bride’s family usually pays for it all.
TOSSING OF THE BOUQUET
This tradition stems from England. Women often tried to tear pieces of the bride’s dress for good luck. But then the bride began tossing her bouquet and running to avoid the crowds. Today’s brides still toss a throw away bouquet to all the single women present, and the one catching is believed to be the next to get married. Years ago when I first married (40 years ago) the bride’s bouquet would be tossed; we didn’t have throw away bouquets.
THE BRIDAL VEIL
The veil has long been a symbol of youth, modesty and virginity, and was used to turn off evil.
BRIDESMAIDS
The bridal party was established many centuries ago. According to folk lure the purpose of the bridesmaids was to fool evil spirits. The bride’s friends would dress similar to her to fool and confuse any evil prescience that might be around. In today’s weddings bridesmaid are around to help the bride in stressful times during the wedding,
MORE TO COME….
This is just the beginning segment for Unique & Yours blog with regards to wedding traditions and are they still be used……stay tuned for more!!!! Coming next – why does the groom have a best man, why is the bride on the Groom’s left, and much more. It has been really interesting to research all these traditions and to see how many are still around.
In the many years that I have been doing wedding and event planning, I have seen the traditions begin to disappear. You will also notice this as the blog posts continue. You will find yourself looking for these things when you attend weddings....take a mental note of what you do see and don't see.
Thursday, August 19, 2010
PROFESSIONAL OR PREFERRED, WHAT DOES IT MEAN REALLY?
Lately in this area there has been a lot of throwing around the words – professional and preferred. So I decided to tackle this topic because of the confusion it is causing among clients and vendors. I would mention the location I am referring to, but that would be unprofessional of me.
A short definition of a professional would be a person that acts professionally. It does not mean who charges the most, where they are located, or the dollars that their clients spend on their event is the better professional.
In considering who and what I see as a professional in this field would be someone who knows their field, has many years of experience, certified if applicable, adheres to a code of ethics, honest, trust worthy, truthful, respectful of the client and of other vendors, and dependable. I am sure I have missed some other areas, but these are important.
It is so discouraging when vendors belittle another vendor, that is not a professional way to act, especially when the vendors are not even in their field of expertise.
Professionalism + experience + training + manners should equal a great vendor!
Clients also like to see reviews that vendors have available; they care about what other clients have experienced with a vendor.
As we all strive to be professionals in our field, remember that there are none of us who are perfect! Each day, each client adds to our growth as a wedding professional. We each have our unique way of doing our job! Working on our own skills, techniques and approach is how we need to individually work on presenting ourselves as professionals in our field. Never put yourself on a pedestal as “the best” because you will surely be knocked down!
When posting to social media sources, always read what you have written and proof BEFORE you hit that send button. Do not always depend on spell check either, it makes mistakes too! That would be a professional thing to do! Sending out items with misspelled words and sentences that do not make sense looks bad! Take that extra step! Work towards a more professional appearance in your writing too! I am not perfect in this area either, but I do try and correct my mistakes!
How often do you see the words “preferred vendor”? What does that mean exactly? Who are they “preferred” by? Does everyone feel that way? Those are questions that often come up when speaking with clients. They see that a venue ONLY allows their preferred vendors and the client wants to know why?
It is often because a vendor has been asked to be put on a venue’s “preferred vendor list” and that is fine. But when venues go as far as restricting who a client can use as their vendors that is a big turn off for clients. Most of the time the restricted preferred vendor list are vendors that are very expensive for the client.
I have found that clients often like to select vendors who fit their needs, personality and budget. Vendors that are more expensive do not necessarily mean they are better, or the best. Clients should be allowed to select their vendors as they see fit, not necessarily from the venue’s exclusive vendor list.
So when we look at the “preferred” and “professional” terms that are being tossed about, we should be looking at how professional a vendor presents their services, before we label them “preferred”. Clients should be the ones determining whether a vendor is preferred, not others.
A big turn off for many clients is when the vendor places themselves on some type of pedestal and uses words like “I am the best” or “I do a much better job than------“. These statements are really unprofessional. Showing a client that you can do the best job is always the way to present yourself. Offer them the chance to read reviews by your former clients!
While I am sure that we all think of ourselves as the best in our field, the way to gain that title and respect is to prove yourself! Not by applying the title to you or others just because –
I often think of what Rodney King said “can’t we all just get along?”
A short definition of a professional would be a person that acts professionally. It does not mean who charges the most, where they are located, or the dollars that their clients spend on their event is the better professional.
In considering who and what I see as a professional in this field would be someone who knows their field, has many years of experience, certified if applicable, adheres to a code of ethics, honest, trust worthy, truthful, respectful of the client and of other vendors, and dependable. I am sure I have missed some other areas, but these are important.
It is so discouraging when vendors belittle another vendor, that is not a professional way to act, especially when the vendors are not even in their field of expertise.
Professionalism + experience + training + manners should equal a great vendor!
Clients also like to see reviews that vendors have available; they care about what other clients have experienced with a vendor.
As we all strive to be professionals in our field, remember that there are none of us who are perfect! Each day, each client adds to our growth as a wedding professional. We each have our unique way of doing our job! Working on our own skills, techniques and approach is how we need to individually work on presenting ourselves as professionals in our field. Never put yourself on a pedestal as “the best” because you will surely be knocked down!
When posting to social media sources, always read what you have written and proof BEFORE you hit that send button. Do not always depend on spell check either, it makes mistakes too! That would be a professional thing to do! Sending out items with misspelled words and sentences that do not make sense looks bad! Take that extra step! Work towards a more professional appearance in your writing too! I am not perfect in this area either, but I do try and correct my mistakes!
How often do you see the words “preferred vendor”? What does that mean exactly? Who are they “preferred” by? Does everyone feel that way? Those are questions that often come up when speaking with clients. They see that a venue ONLY allows their preferred vendors and the client wants to know why?
It is often because a vendor has been asked to be put on a venue’s “preferred vendor list” and that is fine. But when venues go as far as restricting who a client can use as their vendors that is a big turn off for clients. Most of the time the restricted preferred vendor list are vendors that are very expensive for the client.
I have found that clients often like to select vendors who fit their needs, personality and budget. Vendors that are more expensive do not necessarily mean they are better, or the best. Clients should be allowed to select their vendors as they see fit, not necessarily from the venue’s exclusive vendor list.
So when we look at the “preferred” and “professional” terms that are being tossed about, we should be looking at how professional a vendor presents their services, before we label them “preferred”. Clients should be the ones determining whether a vendor is preferred, not others.
A big turn off for many clients is when the vendor places themselves on some type of pedestal and uses words like “I am the best” or “I do a much better job than------“. These statements are really unprofessional. Showing a client that you can do the best job is always the way to present yourself. Offer them the chance to read reviews by your former clients!
While I am sure that we all think of ourselves as the best in our field, the way to gain that title and respect is to prove yourself! Not by applying the title to you or others just because –
I often think of what Rodney King said “can’t we all just get along?”
Friday, July 9, 2010
IS YOUR EVENT ECO FRIENDLY - GREEN
Having been in this profession for many years, I have traveled down many roads. One road that I am very much in support of is working with clients to plan their events around eco friendly ideas. There is a lot of waste that takes place when events, such as weddings are planned and held. I recommend that we all work together to help change this, will you?
If you are planning an event or wedding, you can do some green concepts, or go all the way green! Making your event eco friendly is not that complicated! Just takes some thought as to what you are willing to do.
As a planner, I continuously recommend to my clients to take a look at a list I have composed and give to each of them at our first meeting. Whether we meet at the very beginning, or further into their planning, it is never too late to incorporate many if these ideas.
Here are some of the suggestions that I have gathered over the years that can be applied today–
· Plan your wedding and reception in the same location.
· Keep your wedding cake simple and less wasteful – try using one small cake for ceremonial cutting and cupcakes for the guests. You can even have cupcake boxes for guests to take home a cupcake if there are left over’s.
· Use post card for rsvp – less paper, and it doesn’t require an envelope.
· Create a wedding website for rsvp and gift registry.
· Choose bridesmaids dresses that they can wear again.
· Choose fabrics that are eco-friendly.
· Blow bubbles rather than tossing rice – rice kills birds! And most churches and venues do not allow rice to be thrown. Also a note here, many places do not allow birdseed to be thrown either, attracts some unwanted birds. Always check first!
· Rent real dishes and glassware – rather than using disposable.
· Pick a local florist that uses locally grown flowers, as well as organic, if at all possible.
· Use cloth napkins rather than paper.
· Have your programs printed locally on 100% recycled paper.
· Instead of hosting a full bar, have a special drink made of organic ingredients, including organic vodka.
· If you feel you must use a save-a-date card, use something from hemp paper, and use email as much as possible.
· When deciding on what food is to be served at your reception, consult your caterer about using locally grown foods that are in season in your area.
· Donate your flowers to area nursing homes and hospitals for the patients to enjoy. But remember you will probably need to provide vases, as most florists rent their vases to you; this is their way of going green. If you prefer, compost your flowers! Or you can have them professionally preserved!
· There are many favors available that promote going green, check them out and use one of those ideas.
· Purchase wedding shoes that you will be able to use again.
· Ask your caterer in the planning stage if they will either allow you to take leftover food home with you, or if they will donate it to a local food kitchen.
· Give a reusable locally made cloth tote bag to your bridesmaids to place their items in from the dressing room!
· Instead of bouquets for the bridesmaids, give them matching clutches. They can use them again. Color coordinate them to wedding colors, have florist secure a small simple corsage to them for the ceremony. The bridesmaids will appreciate them.
· Rather than serving champagne for the toasts, have guests toast with what they are drinking. DJ can make announcement so they can get a refresher if they need before toasts.
· Serve local organic wines at the reception – check with your planner for area sources.
· Instead of a full course meal, choose a cocktail and appetizer reception – with desserts.
· Have your baker use locally grown in season berries on your cake.
· Rent tuxedos locally.
· Hire an all-digital videographer.
· Hire all local vendors.
· Give tree saplings as a favor.
· Use bees wax candles if possible.
There are many more ideas and ways to be eco friendly in the planning of your wedding or any event. These are just a few. And planning an eco friendly wedding or event is less expensive!
Happy Planning!!!!!!!!
Marilyn
If you are planning an event or wedding, you can do some green concepts, or go all the way green! Making your event eco friendly is not that complicated! Just takes some thought as to what you are willing to do.
As a planner, I continuously recommend to my clients to take a look at a list I have composed and give to each of them at our first meeting. Whether we meet at the very beginning, or further into their planning, it is never too late to incorporate many if these ideas.
Here are some of the suggestions that I have gathered over the years that can be applied today–
· Plan your wedding and reception in the same location.
· Keep your wedding cake simple and less wasteful – try using one small cake for ceremonial cutting and cupcakes for the guests. You can even have cupcake boxes for guests to take home a cupcake if there are left over’s.
· Use post card for rsvp – less paper, and it doesn’t require an envelope.
· Create a wedding website for rsvp and gift registry.
· Choose bridesmaids dresses that they can wear again.
· Choose fabrics that are eco-friendly.
· Blow bubbles rather than tossing rice – rice kills birds! And most churches and venues do not allow rice to be thrown. Also a note here, many places do not allow birdseed to be thrown either, attracts some unwanted birds. Always check first!
· Rent real dishes and glassware – rather than using disposable.
· Pick a local florist that uses locally grown flowers, as well as organic, if at all possible.
· Use cloth napkins rather than paper.
· Have your programs printed locally on 100% recycled paper.
· Instead of hosting a full bar, have a special drink made of organic ingredients, including organic vodka.
· If you feel you must use a save-a-date card, use something from hemp paper, and use email as much as possible.
· When deciding on what food is to be served at your reception, consult your caterer about using locally grown foods that are in season in your area.
· Donate your flowers to area nursing homes and hospitals for the patients to enjoy. But remember you will probably need to provide vases, as most florists rent their vases to you; this is their way of going green. If you prefer, compost your flowers! Or you can have them professionally preserved!
· There are many favors available that promote going green, check them out and use one of those ideas.
· Purchase wedding shoes that you will be able to use again.
· Ask your caterer in the planning stage if they will either allow you to take leftover food home with you, or if they will donate it to a local food kitchen.
· Give a reusable locally made cloth tote bag to your bridesmaids to place their items in from the dressing room!
· Instead of bouquets for the bridesmaids, give them matching clutches. They can use them again. Color coordinate them to wedding colors, have florist secure a small simple corsage to them for the ceremony. The bridesmaids will appreciate them.
· Rather than serving champagne for the toasts, have guests toast with what they are drinking. DJ can make announcement so they can get a refresher if they need before toasts.
· Serve local organic wines at the reception – check with your planner for area sources.
· Instead of a full course meal, choose a cocktail and appetizer reception – with desserts.
· Have your baker use locally grown in season berries on your cake.
· Rent tuxedos locally.
· Hire an all-digital videographer.
· Hire all local vendors.
· Give tree saplings as a favor.
· Use bees wax candles if possible.
There are many more ideas and ways to be eco friendly in the planning of your wedding or any event. These are just a few. And planning an eco friendly wedding or event is less expensive!
Happy Planning!!!!!!!!
Marilyn
Saturday, June 26, 2010
WHAT'S YOUR COLOR
WEDDING COLORS AND THEME
Brides often ask when they should decide on the color scheme of their wedding and reception. My answer is at the beginning, often before you shop for your wedding dress. It is beneficial to have colors and a theme, as well as the time of the year when your wedding will be held prior to doing any shopping.
Colors will help set the tone of your wedding. Fall weddings tend to feature colors such as gold, green, burgundy, along with these fabulous colors which have been reported as the 2010 Fall Colors of choice for weddings.
Fall/Winter:
deep red
teal
violet
mocha
sage
You can take any of these colors and add accent colors to make things pop. I recommend choosing two main colors and two accent colors. White and ivory are great fillers. Picking your attendants dresses is easier if you have your color palette decided. And they do not all have to be the same color or style. Let your bridesmaids help in that decision by trying on several styles and colors. Remember you do have the final approval as it is YOUR wedding. Be sure and ask for samples of the colors when your decision is made. This will help in future planning, such as the matching of linens and flowers.
Your accent colors can be used in your flowers, as well as the vests and ties of the groomsmen. I really like using several colors rather than just staying with one color. It gives your event a more vibrant setting.
Use the same colors at your reception venue also. And this can be one in chair coverings, table linens, flowers and much more. Be creative! Florists and wedding designers have a way of making it happen! And it does not need to be expensive. Simple and elegant are often more appealing.
Ask your planner for suggestions also. Chances are they have seen these colors used before and can give you valuable input. Most planners are also talented decorators for receptions!
Make your wedding “Unique and Yours” with your choices!
Brides often ask when they should decide on the color scheme of their wedding and reception. My answer is at the beginning, often before you shop for your wedding dress. It is beneficial to have colors and a theme, as well as the time of the year when your wedding will be held prior to doing any shopping.
Colors will help set the tone of your wedding. Fall weddings tend to feature colors such as gold, green, burgundy, along with these fabulous colors which have been reported as the 2010 Fall Colors of choice for weddings.
Fall/Winter:
deep red
teal
violet
mocha
sage
You can take any of these colors and add accent colors to make things pop. I recommend choosing two main colors and two accent colors. White and ivory are great fillers. Picking your attendants dresses is easier if you have your color palette decided. And they do not all have to be the same color or style. Let your bridesmaids help in that decision by trying on several styles and colors. Remember you do have the final approval as it is YOUR wedding. Be sure and ask for samples of the colors when your decision is made. This will help in future planning, such as the matching of linens and flowers.
Your accent colors can be used in your flowers, as well as the vests and ties of the groomsmen. I really like using several colors rather than just staying with one color. It gives your event a more vibrant setting.
Use the same colors at your reception venue also. And this can be one in chair coverings, table linens, flowers and much more. Be creative! Florists and wedding designers have a way of making it happen! And it does not need to be expensive. Simple and elegant are often more appealing.
Ask your planner for suggestions also. Chances are they have seen these colors used before and can give you valuable input. Most planners are also talented decorators for receptions!
Make your wedding “Unique and Yours” with your choices!
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
WEATHER AND OUTDOOR WEDDINGS
Planning an Outdoor Wedding - 
The weather has been really bad here in the Midwest so far this summer, lots of rain, winds and even tornadoes. The heat and humidity are also taking their toll. As a wedding planner, the weather is one of my greatest concerns when planning an outdoor wedding, BUT it also affects indoor weddings!
Last week I had a friend of mine call and talk to me about what happened at her nieces “outdoor” wedding the week before (notice this was after the fact). I had talked to her many months ago about her nieces wedding and asked who her planner was – there was none. Hearing that, I began to worry for her.
Her niece and her mother decided they could plan and coordinate it all. That was the first big mistake. While many brides begin planning their weddings, usually with Mom’s help, very few look at the total concept. They get wrapped up in the flowers, dresses, colors, etc. Aunts, friends, girlfriends are put in charge of doing the day of coordinating – just because they attended or took part in a wedding. They knew nothing about the proper formation of the wedding party or other ceremony related items. This turned out to be another issue – sending people down the aisle wrong, not to the right music, and more. My friend said it was a little messy.
Dreaming of an outdoor wedding in the spring or summer and often fall in Missouri is a beautiful thought. But it requires much more planning than one realizes. This is where a wedding planner could have guided the bride. Planners are not planning their wedding for you; they are assisting in the planning of your wedding for you! The planner would have given advice on what all needs to happen with an outdoor wedding – to avoid any problems or disappointments.
In listening to my friend, I learned that apparently no plans were made for an alternative location in case of inclement weather – which we had that weekend. The venue where her wedding was held did not offer an indoor location, and no mention of tents was made. However that weekend, no tent vendor would have set up due to high winds. I learned this from years of experience with community events.
While the mother and daughter had the basics planned for the wedding, they failed to plan the logistics. I once again stress the importance of a wedding planner involved somewhere in the picture. Often brides are led to believe that the venue “coordinator” will assist in all these issues, but that is not always the case. Most venue coordinators are not trained or certified in the wedding planning field. They are only concerned with their venue. Everything else is not their concern.
Another one of the logistical problems that came up while everyone was running for their cars, was the parking issue at the venue. It apparently was a nightmare. Many had to park a distance from the ceremony location. There was not enough parking for the number of guests that came to witness this event.
Last week I had a friend of mine call and talk to me about what happened at her nieces “outdoor” wedding the week before (notice this was after the fact). I had talked to her many months ago about her nieces wedding and asked who her planner was – there was none. Hearing that, I began to worry for her.
Her niece and her mother decided they could plan and coordinate it all. That was the first big mistake. While many brides begin planning their weddings, usually with Mom’s help, very few look at the total concept. They get wrapped up in the flowers, dresses, colors, etc. Aunts, friends, girlfriends are put in charge of doing the day of coordinating – just because they attended or took part in a wedding. They knew nothing about the proper formation of the wedding party or other ceremony related items. This turned out to be another issue – sending people down the aisle wrong, not to the right music, and more. My friend said it was a little messy.
Dreaming of an outdoor wedding in the spring or summer and often fall in Missouri is a beautiful thought. But it requires much more planning than one realizes. This is where a wedding planner could have guided the bride. Planners are not planning their wedding for you; they are assisting in the planning of your wedding for you! The planner would have given advice on what all needs to happen with an outdoor wedding – to avoid any problems or disappointments.
In listening to my friend, I learned that apparently no plans were made for an alternative location in case of inclement weather – which we had that weekend. The venue where her wedding was held did not offer an indoor location, and no mention of tents was made. However that weekend, no tent vendor would have set up due to high winds. I learned this from years of experience with community events.
While the mother and daughter had the basics planned for the wedding, they failed to plan the logistics. I once again stress the importance of a wedding planner involved somewhere in the picture. Often brides are led to believe that the venue “coordinator” will assist in all these issues, but that is not always the case. Most venue coordinators are not trained or certified in the wedding planning field. They are only concerned with their venue. Everything else is not their concern.
Another one of the logistical problems that came up while everyone was running for their cars, was the parking issue at the venue. It apparently was a nightmare. Many had to park a distance from the ceremony location. There was not enough parking for the number of guests that came to witness this event.
I could go on, but I think you probably get the idea. While it is a lot of fun picking out the colors, dresses, food, etc., there are other issues that need to be considered. A planner, whether for the entire planning process, or a day of coordinator, it is well worth it. They can handle the above issues while saving you money, and keeping the heartbreaking problems from raising their ugly heads!
This is the event that every girl dreams of; make sure all the items are covered!
Happy planning!!!!! And consult a planner – you will not regret it.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
WEDDING RECEPTION VENUES -picking one
SO YOU ARE PLANNING YOUR RECEPTION….
Pick your reception venue carefully!!!
Today is the day that you will be searching for that perfect venue for your wedding celebration. Always begin your search with your theme and colors in mind. Are you planning a large reception with elaborate decorations, or a small gathering with warm romantic decorations? Not every venue meets all of the needs and wants of many brides. Even the smallest detail could cause problems at the event if it was not discussed at the signing. The things listed below and further in this writing are things that wedding planners check out for you!!! And are some of the things to be aware of when looking, and before signing are:
1. Will the venue accommodate the number of guests invited?
2. Does the venue have a dance floor, or will one have to be rented, if so is that an additional charge, and how much? You might be able to rent one at a lower fee.
3. Is the décor of the venue tastefully done and will it compliment your theme and colors. Clashing colors and dirty carpets will take away from the event, and guests due notice those things.
4. Is there in house catering
5. Will they allow outside catering
6. Is there a bar at the venue, or is alcohol even allowed
7. Does the venue have tables and chairs available for use at the event – and are they in good condition, are they right for your event, will they need to be covered.
8. What does the venue provide as part of the rental (see list later in this writing).
9. Will you have to provide your own alcohol, or will they have it available to purchase.
10. Do they have adequate electrical outlets in the venue for DJ, or other music providers, lighting, etc?
11. Go over their rules and regulations
12. Do they allow candles, if so how many?
13. Is the venue handicap accessible
14. Are their adequate restrooms, and are they handicap accessible. ARE THEY CLEAN!!
15. Do they have a copy of the room layout available for you to use in planning the layout of the event
16. What time will the venue be available for your vendors to get in for set up?
17. Are there any restrictions regarding the vendors you use? Will they work with your hired planner?
18. Are there any hidden charges? (such as set up fees, cake cutting fees, etc.)
19. Is there a deposit, is it refundable?
20. Is there adequate parking for your guests?
21. Ask to see a copy of their contract, and read it!
22. ONE OF THE things that almost always comes up – is the venue CLEAN
Choosing reception venues should be an important decision in the planning of your event. It is the big party, and should be carefully planned. I know I keep saying a wedding planner can help, but they really can. They can recommend vendors, reception locations, and help you get the best for your budget dollar. Many planners have worked with other brides in reception venues you might be interested in. They know if that would be a good decision for you, and can help make it happen. Planners can also steer you away from reception venues that may not be suited for your event.
It is suggested that you visit several venues and take pictures of each. Look at the tables and chairs that will be used. See a sample of the linens, dishes and silverware they use at events such as yours. Be sure and look up (at the ceiling) and down (at the floor) – are those areas clean? Is the carpet dirty and spotted? Are the windows clean and are the window coverings all there. I recently visited a reception venue with a bride and we noticed that a couple of the drapes for the windows were missing. When we asked the venue coordinator about it, she replied “it has been like that for several years”. That was not a good sign. Your guests will notice things like dirty carpet, missing drapes, missing ceiling tiles, dirty windows (even at night). Not all of those problems can be hidden with beautiful floral arrangements, candle light or other effects.
Some venues include the use of white table linens (tablecloth, skirting where needed, and napkins), mirror tiles and votive candles. Look at each of these items and ask yourself these questions.
1. Are the coverings in good repair?
2. Do the mirror tiles have cracks or chips? Are they clean, or do they have melted wax on them?
3. If the venue provides votives, how many and what do they look, as many do not have holders, just the candles.
4. Are the napkins in good repair? Are they able to get them in colors, what is the cost?
5. Are the tablecloths square or round? So many venues use square ones, which is often hard to decorate with.
6. If they provide any chair coverings, are they clean and in good repair. Are they wrinkled?
7. Are there any hidden costs with using any of the items they offer?
Picking the reception venue that is right for you is very important. You should expect to get what you want for the prices they charge. Work with a wedding planner to see that those wants and desires are met. A planner IS experienced in helping you. Do not depend on the Venue coordinator, as they are only interested in their venue, not your wants and needs for your event.
Do not jump into the first venue you visit, check out several, take pictures of each, make a checklist for each and compare them, then go home and make the decision. You should book your reception venue 8 to 12 months from your wedding.
Happy Venue Hunting!!!!!!!!!!!!
Monday, April 12, 2010
"VENUE" WEDDING COORDINATORS
VENUES AND THEIR WEDDING STAFF
A week does not go by without me receiving a call from a frantic bride. She is looking for a wedding coordinator or planner to help her put things together. She feels she was misled by the “venue” wedding coordinator.
Many venues where the weddings and receptions are held have a “coordinator” on staff. BUT without reading through her contract the bride “assumes” that the venue coordinator will help her in doing “all” the planning for her big event.
WRONG…the norm in the venue coordinator job description is to help plan the usage of the venue and what they (venue) are to provide. The coordinator is there to make sure you follow the signed contract, and to provide only what they have agreed to in the contract.
Some venue coordinators step out of line and try to do more than they are trained for and led the rehearsal, often doing it wrong and causing a huge problem. While they may have helped with several weddings in that venue, they are not often properly trained to lead a rehearsal or get the group down the aisle properly on the day of the event.
Brides should ALWAYS ask up front what specifically the venue coordinator will be doing, ask for references on their ability to do more, and get it in writing. Make sure they are qualified, really qualified. Professional wedding planners/coordinators are trained in every aspect of wedding planning and coordination. They study different religious and cultural aspects that make some weddings unique.
I have been doing this for years and have only come across a handful of venue coordinators that actually have the training to do the rehearsal or ceremony items. Some think they do, but usually do not get it right, and the bride is very disappointed. This is her day and to have it upset by the inexperience of a venue coordinator is sad.
The venue coordinator should ALWAYS make it perfectly clear that they will not be doing any of the planning of the event with the exception of dealing with what the venue does or provides. When a bride sees the words “wedding planner” or “wedding coordinator” as part of the venue details, they feel as if that person will help in every aspect of the planning. This is wrong.
You notice that I have mentioned the same thing twice. There is a reason for that. Brides should not assume that the venue coordinator/planner is going to take the place of a real wedding planner, because doing that is asking for a problem. Ask before, not afterwards.
I will share with you now a horrible thing that happened to a bride when she assumed that the venue coordinator was taking care of things. The bride read in the contract and on their website that the venue had a wedding coordinator who would help “plan” their event “at” this venue. Nothing was in the contract about what it was exactly the venue coordinator/planner was going to provide.
So to make this shorter, but not less painful, the bride went on for a couple of months wondering how her wedding was coming along and how the planner was doing with it. She called the venue coordinator, and found out that nothing had been done, except for what the venue was to take care of…..lots of mis-communication; misunderstanding and hurt feelings followed that call. She now had to really get busy and complete the planning….panic had set in.
The moral of this story is……DO NOT assume that the venue (ceremony or reception) coordinator will take care of everything for you!!! It just doesn’t work that way. Read the contract and ask for explanations.
Venues need to be up front with clients and explain it all to them……do not lead them on to think you will do it all. There are some that will not open up and explain, so clients need to ask around, and be straight forward with their questions.
Remember brides, ask questions, read contracts and make sure you are getting what you think you are, or look elsewhere!!!
Tuesday, January 19, 2010
UNIQUE & YOURS WINS AWARD
Unique & Yours Wedding Services wins 2010 Bride’s Choice Award
Liberty, Missouri- January 19, 2010 – WeddingWire.com, the nation’s leading wedding technology company, just announced Unique & Yours Wedding Services has been selected to receive the 2010 Bride’s Choice Awards™ for Wedding Planning/Coordinating !
The annual Bride’s Choice Awards™ recognizes and celebrates excellence in quality and service within the wedding industry, as determined by recent reviews and extensive surveys from over 500,000 newlyweds.
Unique & Yours Wedding Services is among the top five percent of all vendors in the WeddingWire community, which includes over 100,000 wedding professionals across the US and Canada. Awards were given to winners across 19 different service categories, from wedding venues to wedding photographers.
Unique and Yours Wedding Services is part of TREPS “Tourism Research and Event Planning Services” located in Liberty, Missouri. The recognized planner for the business is Marilyn Buck.“We are excited to recognize and honor the success of the top wedding professionals within the WeddingWire Community” said Timothy Chi, WeddingWire’s Chief Executive Officer. “The annual Bride’s Choice Awards™ program has given us the unique opportunity to highlight the best wedding professionals in each region as reviewed by brides and grooms who have utilized their services in the past year.”
We are happy to announce that Unique & Yours Wedding Services is among the very best Wedding Planners within the WeddingWire Network, which includes WeddingWire and Martha Stewart Weddings. We would like to thank our past newlyweds for nominating us for the 2010 Bride’s Choice Awards™. For more information, please visit our WeddingWire Storefront today at http://www.weddingwire.com/shared/Search?l=y&name=TREPS%2FUnique+%26+Yours&geo=kansas+city
Liberty, Missouri- January 19, 2010 – WeddingWire.com, the nation’s leading wedding technology company, just announced Unique & Yours Wedding Services has been selected to receive the 2010 Bride’s Choice Awards™ for Wedding Planning/Coordinating !
The annual Bride’s Choice Awards™ recognizes and celebrates excellence in quality and service within the wedding industry, as determined by recent reviews and extensive surveys from over 500,000 newlyweds.
Unique & Yours Wedding Services is among the top five percent of all vendors in the WeddingWire community, which includes over 100,000 wedding professionals across the US and Canada. Awards were given to winners across 19 different service categories, from wedding venues to wedding photographers.
Unique and Yours Wedding Services is part of TREPS “Tourism Research and Event Planning Services” located in Liberty, Missouri. The recognized planner for the business is Marilyn Buck.“We are excited to recognize and honor the success of the top wedding professionals within the WeddingWire Community” said Timothy Chi, WeddingWire’s Chief Executive Officer. “The annual Bride’s Choice Awards™ program has given us the unique opportunity to highlight the best wedding professionals in each region as reviewed by brides and grooms who have utilized their services in the past year.”
We are happy to announce that Unique & Yours Wedding Services is among the very best Wedding Planners within the WeddingWire Network, which includes WeddingWire and Martha Stewart Weddings. We would like to thank our past newlyweds for nominating us for the 2010 Bride’s Choice Awards™. For more information, please visit our WeddingWire Storefront today at http://www.weddingwire.com/shared/Search?l=y&name=TREPS%2FUnique+%26+Yours&geo=kansas+city
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